A Mapo Customary Court in Ibadan on Tuesday dissolved a two-year-old marriage between Bolaji, a banker and her husband, Tope Adeniyi, over laziness and deception into marriage.
The presiding president of the court, Mr Henric Agbaje, held that what had just happened should be a big lesson to young ladies and even men.
Agbaje said they should try as much as possible to distinguish between appearance and reality. He added that the establishment of an enduring marriage institution transcends mere mouth making in order to put a woman in the house.
“In the interest of peace and tranquility, the court has put an end to the union between Bolaji and Adeniyi.
He awarded custody of the two-year-old child to Bolaji and ordered Adeniyi to N5,000 monthly feeding allowance for the upkeep of the child and his other welfare.
In her petition to the court, Bolaji said that Adeniyi deceived her into a hopeless marriage, painting a picture of what he was not. “We met each other just at the time when I was just starting my NYSC, making all the promises in this world.
“Adeniyi with his sugar-coated mouth told me that he was a well paid worker of an oil company in Port Harcourt and he did go there often in my presence. “I eventually got pregnant for him, he then took me to an hotel for our honeymoon and I was surprised that we didn’t go to his home for the honeymoon.
“I received further shock when his elder brother invited us into his apartment to live there for sometimes. “After six months, his brother’s wife stylishly drove me out when she started misbehaving towards me because we were staying too long in their house.
“With my job as a banker, I started taking responsibility of most of the things, including feeding and furnishing the house. “Worst still, Adeniyi took to unleashing mayhem on me at any slightest disagreement as well as destroying my property.
“Then, one day, I moved to my parents’ home telling them how providence has brutally changed my life. “As a matter of fact, Adeniyi had no qualification because he had no higher education, had no job, but dresses well because his brother works with an oil company and sometimes gave him money. “For more than a year now, we have been staying apart,” Bolaji explained.
Adeniyi, who had no explanation to deny all the allegations rejected the divorce request. “My lord, I love Bolaji and I don’t want to divorce her for the reason of love and because of our child who might suffer. “Bolaji’s father had told both of us that he is not interested in any divorce and that anyone who wants to divorce should just write him a letter and not the court process,” Adeniyi said.